{"id":3260,"date":"2025-09-01T13:25:48","date_gmt":"2025-09-01T10:25:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.psikologleylakilic.com\/?p=3260"},"modified":"2025-09-01T13:25:49","modified_gmt":"2025-09-01T10:25:49","slug":"kadinin-kendi-koydugu-sinirlari-asabilmesi-ogrenilmis-caresizlikkarsisinda-ogrenilmis-gucluluk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.psikologleylakilic.com\/en\/2025\/09\/01\/kadinin-kendi-koydugu-sinirlari-asabilmesi-ogrenilmis-caresizlikkarsisinda-ogrenilmis-gucluluk\/","title":{"rendered":"Kad\u0131n\u0131n Kendi Koydu\u011fu S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 A\u015fabilmesi: \u2018\u2019\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00c7aresizlik\u2018\u2019Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u2018\u2019\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcl\u00fck\u2019\u2019"},"content":{"rendered":"<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-left\"><strong><strong><strong><strong><strong><strong>Kad\u0131n\u0131n Kendi Koydu\u011fu S\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 A\u015fabilmesi: \u2018\u2019\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00c7aresizlik\u2018\u2019Kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u2018\u2019\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcl\u00fck\u2019\u2019<\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/strong><\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik kavram\u0131 ki\u015finin herhangi bir durumda \u00e7ok say\u0131da ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011frayarak, bir \u015fey yapsa da hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin de\u011fi\u015fmeyece\u011fini, olaylar\u0131n kendi kontrol\u00fcnde olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, o konuda bir daha asla ba\u015far\u0131ya ula\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcp, bir daha deneme cesaretini kaybetmesidir. \u00d6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizlik, mevcut toplumsal yap\u0131daki sosyalle\u015fme s\u00fcreciyle, kad\u0131na neleri yapmas\u0131 neleri yapmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini o kadar g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir \u015fekilde \u00f6\u011fretir\/verir ki, kad\u0131n toplumsal ya\u015fam alan\u0131nda o kal\u0131p yarg\u0131 ve kurallar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kamay\u0131p, yeni\/farkl\u0131 bir eylemde\/denemede bulunmay\u0131 akl\u0131ndan bile ge\u00e7irmeyerek, olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi gibi tutum ve davran\u0131\u015f g\u00f6stererek, bir anlamda kaybetmeyi \u00f6\u011frenir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Toplumdaki mevcut k\u00fclt\u00fcrel kal\u0131plar i\u00e7inde ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcren kad\u0131n, o k\u00fclt\u00fcrel kal\u0131plar\u0131n d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kamamakta, o kal\u0131plar ne derse, kendini ona g\u00f6re ayarlamakta, ona g\u00f6re tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar sergilemektedir. \u00d6rne\u011fin \u201cbana ne kadar kad\u0131n gibi davran\u0131l\u0131rsa, o kadar kad\u0131n oluyordum. \u0130ster istemez adapte oldum. E\u011fer arabalar\u0131 ters \u00e7evirme ya da \u015fi\u015fe a\u00e7maya g\u00fcc\u00fcm olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyorsa, tuhaf bi\u00e7imde g\u00fcc\u00fcm olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcyordum. E\u011fer bir kasan\u0131n benim i\u00e7in a\u011f\u0131r oldu\u011fu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcyorsa, a\u00e7\u0131klanamaz bi\u00e7imde ben de a\u011f\u0131r buluyordum\u201d &nbsp;ifadelerinde oldu\u011fu gibi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad\u0131nlar\u0131n, \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizli\u011fi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair en \u00f6nemli \u00f6rneklerden biri de u\u011fram\u0131\u015f olduklar\u0131\/maruz kald\u0131klar\u0131 \u015fiddettir. Kad\u0131n\u0131n, \u015fiddeti ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ortamdan yeterince uzakla\u015famamas\u0131 ya da \u015fiddete dur diyememesi, sessiz kalmas\u0131d\u0131r. \u015e\u00f6yle ki, \u201cGer\u00e7ekte kad\u0131n\u0131n dayak yemesi; benlik sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n, kendine olan g\u00fcveninin ve kendiyle ilgili de\u011ferlilik duygular\u0131n\u0131n incinmesine neden olur. Bu olay kad\u0131n\u0131n, duygusal alan\u0131nda f\u0131rt\u0131nalar koparan, \u2018b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131kan\u2019 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalara neden olur. \u015eiddetin yo\u011funluk derecesi artt\u0131k\u00e7a, benlik sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6rselenme derecesi de artar. Kad\u0131n, kendini aptal, \u00e7irkin, de\u011fersiz, yetersiz hisseder. Kad\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn bu ba\u015f\u0131na gelenlerin sadece \u2018\u2019kaderi\u2019\u2019 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek, ayn\u0131 k\u0131s\u0131r d\u00f6ng\u00fc i\u00e7inde ya\u015famaya devam eder. Kad\u0131n\u0131n, \u015fiddet ortam\u0131nda uzun y\u0131llar kalmak, kad\u0131n\u0131n umutsuzluk ve \u00e7aresizlik duygular\u0131n\u0131n da kronikle\u015fmesine ve k\u00f6kle\u015fmesine neden olabilir. Ba\u015f edememe, kontrol edememe ve bu durumdan uzakla\u015famama, \u015fiddete maruz kalan kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7aresizli\u011fine de i\u015faret etmektedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Di\u011fer yandan kad\u0131n\u0131n, \u00e7aresizli\u011fi \u00f6\u011frenmesinde toplumdaki bir\u00e7ok s\u00f6ylemde etkilidir. Kad\u0131n, her ne kadar \u015fiddet ortam\u0131ndan kurtulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da, bunun i\u00e7in ad\u0131mlar atmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fsa da onu engelleyen, gitmemesi i\u00e7in \u00f6n\u00fcne set \u00e7ekilen, direncini k\u0131ran; \u201c \u2018evlilik g\u00fcl bah\u00e7esi de\u011fildir, k\u00f6t\u00fcleri iyi yapacak sensin\u2019, \u2018ne olursa olsun her zaman kocan\u0131n yan\u0131nda yer alacaks\u0131n\u2019, \u2018e\u015fin bask\u0131 alt\u0131nda olabilir\u2019, \u2018anal\u0131k ve e\u015flik birinci g\u00f6revindir\u2019, \u2018sen kad\u0131ns\u0131n alttan al\u2019, \u2018anas\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n i\u00e7in idare edeceksin\u2019, \u2018kan kussan da k\u0131z\u0131lc\u0131k \u015ferbeti i\u00e7tim diyeceksin\u2019, \u2018senin yerin evindir\u2019, \u2018kocan hata yapsa da \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n babas\u0131d\u0131r\u2019, \u2018erkek evin dire\u011fidir\u2019 \u201d gibi s\u00f6ylemler kad\u0131nda, b\u00f6yle gelmi\u015f b\u00f6yle gider, bu i\u015fe yaramaz ki, yapsam ne de\u011fi\u015fecek ki, bunu yapmam\u0131n hi\u00e7bir faydas\u0131 olmaz ki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fecek ve \u00e7aresizlik, kronik bir hal alacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad\u0131n\u0131n olaylar\u0131 y\u00f6netebilmesi, kendi ya\u015fam\u0131na hakim olabilmesi ve olumsuzluklar\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelebilmesi ya da \u201cd\u0131\u015fsal bir deste\u011fe ihtiya\u00e7 duymaks\u0131z\u0131n zorluklarla ba\u015f edebilme g\u00fcc\u00fc\u201d olan \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcl\u00fck, kad\u0131nlardaki \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizli\u011fin yerine ge\u00e7melidir. Di\u011fer bir deyi\u015fle kad\u0131nlar\u0131n insan haklar\u0131 bak\u0131m\u0131ndan en \u00f6nemli engeli, toplumsal yap\u0131daki kal\u0131pla\u015fm\u0131\u015f\/benimsenmi\u015f k\u00fclt\u00fcrel \u00f6nyarg\u0131lard\u0131r. Bu \u00f6nyarg\u0131lar ise ancak kad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f \u00e7aresizli\u011fi bir tarafa b\u0131rakarak, \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc se\u00e7mesiyle ortadan kalkacakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad\u0131n\u0131n, toplumsal yap\u0131n\u0131n t\u00fcm ya\u015fam alanlar\u0131nda (evde, sokakta, okulda, i\u015fyerinde vb. alanlarda) sosyok\u00fclt\u00fcrel kal\u0131p yarg\u0131lar\u0131, duvarlar\u0131 y\u0131karak erkeklerle e\u015fit bir bi\u00e7imde yer almas\u0131, birey\/\u00f6zne olarak var olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131, kad\u0131n\u0131 daha da g\u00fc\u00e7lendirerek, kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131n kontrol\u00fcn\u00fc eline almas\u0131na, kurban rol\u00fcnden \u00e7\u0131karak, kendini yeniden in\u015fa etmesine neden olacakt\u0131r. T\u00fcm d\u00fcnya kad\u0131nlar\u0131na; kendi kaderini y\u00f6nlendirmekte \u00f6zg\u00fcr oldu\u011fu bir d\u00fcnya diliyorum.. .<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sevgilerimle\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Uzm. 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